Be An Ally: An Open Letter to Christians

Dear Christians,

We claim to love God. We claim to love others. We claim to be children of love and light, as he calls us to be.

But we’re not.

We belong to the darkness more than any other group of people on earth.

I recently heard someone say, “There’s no hate like Christian love.”

Sadly, it’s true.

We cloak our hate with those manipulative words: “I’m saying this because I love you. If you don’t listen, you’ll go to hell, and because I love you so much, I don’t want that for you. I want you to go to heaven. Don’t you know that God doesn’t love you?”


“Because you’re LGBTQ+. That’s why I hate you. That’s why God hates you.”

Each and every day, millions of people truthfully say: “No one has ever been more cruel to me than Christians. I wanted to kill myself because of Christians. I was outcast from society because of Christians. After what they’ve done to me, how can Christians expect me to want to become one of them? That’s the last thing I want. I don’t want to be so full of hatred as they are.”

Brothers and sisters, I weep.

Not only because this is how you act, but because I once acted the same way.

LGBTQ+ community, you are loved. You are my friends. God loves you. You are his friends. For he dearly loves each and every one of his children.

Please forgive me for what I did to you.

I weep that so many are still so cruel to you. They are in the wrong, and they will be judged.

To those of you I know personally, and to those I don’t, know that God calls us to be allies. Because he is your ally. He is on your side. So am I. So are many of us. We all pray together that our brothers and sisters will repent.

Remember this: “If God is for us, who can be against us?” (Romans 8:31)

Brothers and sisters, what did the Lord Jesus come into this world to do? “For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but in order that the world might be saved through him” (John 3:17).

If you don’t believe that everyone is loved by the one you call “your” Jesus, I grieve and weep for you.

LGBTQ+ community, this is a letter from my heart. I know it can’t erase the pain you have felt, and which – to my heartbreak – many of you still feel. But I hope and pray that whoever reads this knows that you are loved. Jesus is for the world – to save it, not condemn it. This means he is for you.

“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life” (John 3:16).

“Beloved, let us love one another, for love is from God, and whoever loves has been born of God and knows God. Anyone who does not love does not know God, because God is love. In this the love of God was made manifest among us, that God sent his only Son into the world, so that we might live through him. In this is love, not that we have loved God but that he loved us and sent his Son to be the propitiation for our sins. Beloved, if God so loved us, we also ought to love one another. No one has ever seen God; if we love one another, God abides in us and his love is perfected in us” (1 John 4:7-12).

“If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal. And if I have prophetic powers, and understand all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have all faith, so as to remove mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. If I give away all I have, and if I deliver up my body to be burned, but have not love, I gain nothing. Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never ends. As for prophecies, they will pass away; as for tongues, they will cease; as for knowledge, it will pass away” (1 Corinthians 13:1-8).

Be children of love and light.

Be an ally, as God is our ally.

Choose unconditional love,


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  1. I completely agree with what you say here. Christians should love and not hate, and God calls us to unconditional love. But do you believe that everyone has a right to choose? Do you believe that God created people as male and female ‘and in the image of God He created them’, or do you believe that times are changing and it’s okay to make these choices? I believe that hating and disagreeing are two distinct things. Do I hate my LGBTQ+ brothers and sisters? Absolutely not! But do I disagree with the choices they have made? Sharply.

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    1. Thank you. Very true.
      Good questions. I believe that God created male and female, not to squeeze us into a corner but because his design is loving and good. However, knowing members of the LGBTQ+ community personally, and seeing the hate we have to address in the church, has changed everything for me. I believe these people should have a welcoming place. God is love and everyone has struggles. Sin is a constant struggle, but we can overcome it with his help.

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    2. Hey, Faith, I honestly could not agree more!!!!!! There’s a difference between loving others and speaking out against their actions. I mean, God loves us all, BUT when we become Christians, He begins His beautiful, marvelous work to change us to be more like Him. LGTBQ+ is a sin just like murdering, lying, stealing, etc., and God hates sin, all the same. He doesn’t hate us but He hates sin, which is why Jesus had to die. Because without our sin being washed by the blood of the Lamb, we could not come to Him. BECAUSE I love the homosexuals, I do speak out against the action because I desire very deeply in my heart for God to come into their lives and make them new. For Him to change them like He has changed me. For them to realize the wrong they are committing and how much it hurts God to see them so trapped in their sin. For them to find new life that only Jesus, Himself, can grant. The only problem is that in most people’s eyes, if I tell someone what they’re doing is wrong, I am full of hate. How do they even read the Bible? Especially when Paul himself speaks out against this (Romans 1:26-28). Are we then going to say Paul is full of hate? Jesus is? God? (Er, sorry about my rant, Faith. I think I started chasing a rabbit down a hole there. lol Didn’t mean to dump all of that on you. 🙂 )

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      1. Thank you for sharing your points. But love isn’t to pronounce judgment. It’s to be compassionate and supportive, to let everyone know that they are created in the image of God. We’re all created in the image of God, and no one is better than anyone else. God justifies. We don’t condemn.
        We do many things wrong, but God forgives. It’s important to remember that the church of Rome was full of people wrestling with this kind of struggle. Paul immediately follows with a condemnation of the act of judging (Romans 2:1-3): “Therefore you have no excuse, O man, every one of you who judges. For in passing judgment on another you condemn yourself, because you, the judge, practice the very same things. We know that the judgment of God rightly falls on those who practice such things. Do you suppose, O man—you who judge those who practice such things and yet do them yourself—that you will escape the judgment of God?” Also, in 1 Corinthians 6:11 he states with tenderness that the people of his church once turned against God, but now they are washed and sanctified.
        We need to provide a safe place where there is no judgment, where there is love, and where we work on our struggles together and realize that God can help us overcome them. Because he loves us. And speaking specifically for the LGBTQ+ community, it’s easy to stand on a pedestal until someone we love and care for comes out.


  2. Joy Caroline,
    I can definitely see where you are coming from, and I agree with you. But I think that there is a difference between condemning and judging someone and lovingly directing them to the truth. If a rapist and murderer came into the church who was still active in his crimes, would you say, “Oh, the grace of God covers every sin. We’ll just love him and hope that he turns from his crimes to God.”? No, of course not! You would -out of love for him and the people he is hurting- try to correct him. Too many Christians these days hate, but there is a huge difference between hating and disagreeing. Do I hate LGBTQ+ people? No. Do I disagree? Yes. Would I confront someone about this sin? In love, probably. The church is supposed to be a refuge for the hurting and the broken, but also a place where the body of Christ edifies, encourages, and admonishes one another in love.

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    1. Thanks. I appreciate your input.
      I disagree with comparing the LGBTQ+ community to those such as the one you used in your scenario. That’s hurtful to them and wrong on our part. My church has a wonderful Sabbath school class for LGBTQ+ and allies. Our pastors have always made them very welcome, and the class is a safe space for them. We do disagree. Once people are guided to the light, we want Jesus more and more and refrain from all that is harmful, no matter what that may be. I have met LGBTQ+ Christians who quit practicing because they love God, just as we would quit practicing anything that draws us away from God.


  3. You may be right; comparing LGBTQ+ to rapists and murderers might be too harsh. But isn’t that what all of us are in the sight of God? Isaiah says that our righteous deeds are as filthy rags before His holiness, and if that is true than what can be said of our sins? LGBTQ+ causes immense damage to both the person involved and those around them, and it is a serious sin that needs to be addressed. But I appreciate your church’s approach. If you make it clear that you believe what they are doing is wrong, by all means, welcome them with the love of Christ! Make it a ministry to serve them. Seek to guide them to the light. Whether or not they agree with your perspective, act in love. Listen to the Holy Spirit’s guidance about when to speak and when to be silent. But do not stop fighting for the truth.

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    1. A while ago, I read a beautiful Christian magazine about loving our LGBTQ+ brothers and sisters. It was for teachers in the Adventist schools and how they should love those students, which my school always does. That booklet changed my life. It was about understanding them and loving them for who they are. If we don’t, we’ll alienate those with whom we could share the love of Christ. The more people there are for us to witness to, the more we can rejoice. When we witness through love, the light of Christ will come, and we’ll want to turn away from everything that doesn’t draw us closer to him. Love our neighbors, be inclusive, and pray for God to do the miracle.

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  4. I believe everyone is loved. I love LGBTQ+ people, but I do NOT love the sin. I preach that Jesus LOVES them but wants to change them. So now I am accused of hate? Jesus loves me, but not the sin. He doesn’t love it when we steal, lie, commit murder, etc. He wants to make us a new creation. But if loving someone and hating the sin is hate altogether, then you have just told me that God hates us. We, Christians, who are NOT hating LGBTQ+ people but telling them the amazing news that Jesus can change their lives for the better, are accused of hate? You’re telling me that God hates us because He doesn’t want us to sin. Because He wants us to have a better, abundant life. If Christians are accused of hate because we don’t love the sin, then that is exactly the same as accusing God of hating us.

    If you are saying that we should not show the LGBTQ+ community that what they are doing is wrong, then that is the same as saying to a murderer, “I love you so you can keep killing people. It’s alright if you kill somebody.” Just yesterday, I read your post called “Message: Joy in Forgiveness.” You told the story of David and Sarah. Sarah loved David but didn’t love what he had done. If she had accepted his murdering, he wouldn’t have changed his life, and they both wouldn’t have become missionaries. If we TRULY love LGBTQ+ people, then we, Christians who have witnessed God’s miracle work in our lives, will show LGBTQ+ people that God’s miracle work is for them too.

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    1. I want you to know that I am absolutely not accusing you of hate. I wrote this letter to call out those brothers and sisters who do participate in the act of hate, which is a sin. Sadly, so many Christians do hate, and it’s wrong. I’ve seen that hate myself and have stood by while it was happening, and I sinned by doing that. I’ve even spoken and acted unkindly myself.
      In this letter, I never said that this is right. I believe God wants us to turn away from everything that is harmful to us, no matter what that may be. It’s because he loves us. As children of the light, our job is to love our neighbor as ourselves and witness in the way that Christ did himself. It’s not our place to judge. It is our place to love and embrace everyone God places in our path. We can love and accept one another without agreeing with the lifestyle.
      I have loved ones who are LGBTQ+, and they’re dear to my heart. I don’t look at them any differently than I look at anyone else. I love them as the people they are without agreeing with their lifestyle. They were Christ’s friends. They were St. Paul’s friends. I also once had the privilege of hearing a gay Christian man give his testimony. He talked about his struggles and how he focused on Christ to make his life and heart align with Christ’s. I also heard a woman’s testimony about how she turned away from her lifestyle, all because a Christian pastor loved, accepted, and welcomed her. All without judging her.
      The most important thing we can ever say is that God is love.

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      1. Ok, thank you for your reply. I understand your viewpoint now. I know you are not accusing me directly of hate. But I am a Christian. When you accused the Christians of hate, you accused me. All I did was say you accused us of hate when most of us never hated. Yes, I get that some Christians do. But there are so many Christians accused by unbelievers of hating, simply because the unbelievers didn’t like the message we were telling them. But that doesn’t mean we are really hating. Your post seemed like you were saying that Christians were wrong to be against homosexuality. That we had to accept it in order to love LGTBQ+ people.

        Most of the time, LGTBQ+ people say that we are hating them because they are angry that we do not agree with them. I can’t change their mind, and I can’t change the fact that they are against God’s truth. Once they hear our message, they have to willingly open their hearts to God. Also, I never said anything about judging. Like what Faith said, we are not judging them. LGBTQ+ people think we are only BECAUSE we do not agree with them. God calls us to shed light to His truth. If we keep quiet about what God says about homosexuality, how are we shedding light to His truth? How are we standing firm in our beliefs? How are we standing strong with God and speaking for what’s right? You are right that we can love and not agree with their lifestyle. But not saying anything about it, not speaking out against it, and not showing them God’s truth is the same as agreeing with them. Since 1 Tim. 1:9-10 lists liars, murderers, and homosexuals in the same context, I know that showing someone they are wrong to commit murder is the same as showing someone that God doesn’t want them to live a sexually immoral lifestyle.

        Anyway, to end on a more positive note, I want you to know that you will ALWAYS be my friend and sister in Christ and that will never change (even when we get into debates – so I hope you’re not upset with me debating with you)!!!!!!!! I will ALWAYS love you, JC!!!!!!!!! đź’—đź’—đź’—đź’—đź’— <33333 *infinite hearts*

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        1. I am a Christian also. This letter is not an accusation at all, and as I wrote it, I prayed that God might use it to bless those who read it. It’s a statement of the love Christ meant for us to have. It’s something that has been impressed upon me by the Spirit for a long time now, and I decided it was time to share that. It wasn’t right for me to keep it to myself, although it was scary to finally hit schedule.
          It’s true that Christians have caused the LGBTQ+ community a lot of pain. What I wanted to communicate in this letter was that no one should be treating others as less than themselves. It’s a message of love, as I said in the above paragraph. Being honest, I have no idea where I gave the impression that we should endorse what is not the design God created in his wisdom and love. I was saying that we should love and accept those who are also made in the image of God, no matter what. Because that is unconditional love.
          I disagree with that statement “most of the time.” Most of the time – and I can say this from experience because I know many of them personally – LGBTQ+ people are very kind and wonderful people. It’s just like the rest of us – most people are kind, while some are not. I had the privilege of hearing some who converted to Christianity, and it’s because they were shown love and acceptance by Christians. Speaking for what’s right, standing firm in the truth, standing strong, shedding light… all of those things define love and acceptance, not outcasting.
          Christ shows us what is sin and what he wants us to turn away from because he knows it will harm us – such as in 1 Tim. 1:9-10. Our calling as Christians is to meet everyone with open arms and help them experience God’s love. And once you experience that, you want to turn away from anything that may be even the slightest bit harmful in your relationship with him. We’re not keeping quiet. We’re helping others experience love. It’s important to remember that Jesus, St. Paul, and many others were friends to these people and loved them, and that’s how converts were gained. For this reason, one of my favorite Bible stories has always been the one about the woman who was about to be stoned. Until Jesus said, “Whoever has never sinned can cast the first stone,” and everyone walked away because they knew not one of them had never done wrong. I know I am far from being a perfect Christian, and every day I continue to fall short.
          I just want everyone in the world to feel God’s love. God is kind and accepting because that is who he is. I want people to stop causing others pain and stop acting like they’re better. It’s easy for us to say certain things until someone close to us comes out. All that is needed is love, and God does the miracles.
          I’m praying that you understand what I mean is simply Love. And I really appreciate your saying that we will always be friends and sisters. I love everyone who is part of my little blog family, which certainly includes you. That’s why I decided to share this letter with a message of love, despite how hard it was to publish. Always love you back! đź’—

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  5. I know you are a Christian! I’m so sorry I made it sound like I was saying you weren’t! I didn’t mean it that way. I’m so sorry, I always say things wrong. I am totally with you about unconditional love!!!! I think it’s amazing that even though you were nervous about posting this, you did so anyway! It is always great when we speak as God calls us to!!!

    I am not judging or outcasting anyone. I was talking about showing them God’s truth through love. I totally see your point about how we need to stop acting like we’re better. (Though, honestly, I beat myself up every day because I feel like I’m the worst.) You are right about God being love, and we need to show His love. I truly believe that love is powerful and that loving others can lead them to Christ! I guess I was talking more about how we can not act like what they’re doing is ok, but I see now that you’re not saying that.

    Aw, I TRULY meant it, girl!!!!! <3333 Aww, thank you!!!!!! I love everyone in my blog family including you as well!!!!!! <333 I admire that you desired to share a message of love here!!!! Always love you back too!!!!!đź’—

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    1. Oh, don’t worry about it! I know we’re both for kindness and love. And I really appreciate you saying that.
      I believe the way to show truth is simply by loving. Jesus created community with everyone. Inclusive love is always the answer. Since love keeps no record of wrongs, our calling is to love and to pray and to have faith. After all, loving others is the way Jesus said others will know we’re his disciples.
      Of course! Thanks again for the positivity. Again, I really do appreciate the kindness and support.

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  6. Thank you for being so willing to share your opinion. When I first read your post (and then your comments afterward), the impression I got was that you loved them and equated that with advocating for free choice. But now I think I understand, and I wholeheartedly agree. We are called to love, and that means welcoming others, no matter what the background or past sins. Thanks again for this!

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